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While there are many reasons why a woman may stay in an abusive relationship, it's important to remember that she is the victim of a crime. The perpetrator has said he loves her and that she loves him. The batterer is the one choosing to be violent. The question should be "Why does the batterer abuse her?"
Differences may include an increase in temper tantrums, use of foul language, a change in sleep or eating patterns, acting sad and/or not wanting to play with friends, acting fearful of leaving mom, and problems at school such as aggressive behaviors, poor concentration, or changes in grades. Any time there is trauma such as this in a child's life, it is important to get help and support for them.
Some red flags of potential batterer are that may come on too strong and fast, say I love you too soon, or act too good to be true. Another red flag to look for is jealousy. Jealousy of other relationships past or present, real or imagined. Even in a relationship, one still has the right to have friendships.
Listen to how they talk about previous partners and family. Is there respect for these people? Family relationships can be a huge indicator of how they are going to behave in relationships. Look for consistency in behavior. Does this person say one thing and then do or act in another way? Do they blame others for their mistakes? Most important, trust your gut feelings. If something tells you this person is not all they claim to be, you are probably right.
Early on, many times victims will say these signs were not present, but in hindsight they will often say the warning signs were present. This is because often, these are things that make us feel special and are not looked at critically until things get abusive.
SANE (Sex Assault Nurse Examiner)/FNE (Forensic Nurse Examiner) is specifically trained to examine sexual assault victims for injuries, collect evidence (forensic evidence), provide medications to prevent sexually transmitted infection and give information to prevent pregnancy.
The hospitals with SANE programs that are closest to Park County are: St. Anthony Central - Denver Memorial Hospital - Colorado Springs Summit Medical Center - Frisco