Stalking is about power and control, not love. The important thing to remember when referring to the term ‘stalking’ is that it is a persistent pattern of conduct and set of many unwanted behaviors. Some of those behaviors may include but are not limited to:
  • Attempts to “save” or “rescue” (e.g., from an “immoral life” or an unpleasant situation)
  • Culturally inappropriate courtship behaviors (e.g., bluntly asking for sex)
  • Cyber stalking (e.g., unwanted and harassing email, or instant message)
  • Emotional manipulations designed to elicit reactions
  • Following/ Pursuit (e.g., by car, on foot)
  • Property damage
  • Sending unwanted gifts/ items (e.g., romantic, bizarre, sinister, or perverted)
  • Sending unwanted letters
  • Spreading false rumors about the victim of stalking
  • Surveillance (DO NOT remain on the same phone plan)
  • Telephoning
  • Threats to harm the alleged victim, others, or oneself
  • Trespassing
  • Identity theft